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Second Dating Tips for Women


Second Date Tips for Women

So you made it through the first date just fine, you followed a few simple rules for first dates by not texting him like crazy after your first date, or hinting to the extreme that you would just LOVE to go out with him again. You have been doing the right thing so far and you’re playing it cool and he decided to ask you out again. Fantastic. Now you need some second date tips.

A lot of women make the mistake of thinking that since you’re going on a second date that you’re in, you’re it and you’re the only one he wants to be with. Many women want to go right from first date to complete exclusivity. Let me tell you something, that ain’t happening sista! First of all, guys think completely different than women do. Guys don’t think of commitment and finding a soul mate. Not at all. Guys want to generally play the field and they don’t want to be tied down. Basically when you get to the second date, you don’t want to assume anything and you don’t want to make the mistake of going too fast.

Here is where you want your head to be on your second date. You want it to be only slightly later than the first date. Basically you got the first date out of the way, the weird awkwardness that comes with the first date and some of the nervousness. You might still be nervous on the second date, and that’s o.k. Remember, in most cases of someone going on a second date, this is someone new in your life so you don’t really know him that well. What you’ll want to do is make sure you have some great conversation ideas to get to know him a bit better and to allow him to see that you really are interested in him as well. You’ll want to ask him some questions that evoke an emotional response. Allow him to “feel” the answer.


Some second date tips would be to ask him some “emotional” questions such as these:

1.   When was the last time you did something completely spontaneous? What was that?

2.  I know you enjoy your job, but what is your favorite part of the work that you do?

3.  If you had all the money in the world, and you could just go explore, what kind of places would you see?

4.   If you had your dream career right now, what would you be doing?

 5.  Aside from the most popular place on earth, Disneyland, what would you think would be the most fun place to go?

 6.  What was the highlight of your trip when you went on vacation?


So you see how these types off questions can promote an emotional response? You’ll notice that as he answers these kinds of questions, his eyes will light up, his pitch may be a bit higher, and his body language a bit more animated. You’ll be watching him with a smile on your face because he’s so excited to talk about himself and he won’t even realize just how much he is sharing.

This is the direction you want your conversation to be headed on the second date. You don’t want to get too personal too soon. You don’t want to start having naughty talk and tell him all of your nastiest fantasies…not yet. There will be time for that later, but not now, and not yet. Take it slow.

Seeing the results of a general survey of single men who had been actively dating, the number one answer they came back with on what they found unattractive about women or why it didn’t work out, is that the women tried to move to fast. So take it directly from the men, and slow it down.

Having said that, some more second date tips would be to make him realize just how much he wants to see you again. You don’t actually tell him this, but the way you do this, is by being completely confident, outgoing, and not being needy. That is truly another big turnoff to men is women who are needy. Always remember that you are the prize, and he’s going to have to work for it to get it.